- Dry Body Brushing
Using a dry loofah or rough sponge, scrub the body from the toes to the top of the neck. Move the sponge or loofah in slow, gentle circles, moving up the body towards the heart. Have a nice warm shower or bath before moisturising and putting on some of your favourite perfume.
- Have a romantic bath…by yourself
Set up candles, have the bath overflowing with bubbles, open a bottle of champagne and turn some music on. Just relax back in the tub and pamper yourself for a while.
- Write an affirmation on your water glass
Create your own affirmation, one that you can say out loud without cringing but that is still foreign enough to you that you feel slightly uncomfortable. It is ok if you don’t believe the affirmation just yet. That’s the point. Some examples could be; ‘I am a loving being, worthy of being loved’, ‘All that I am, is all that I need to be’, ‘I am beautiful’, or ‘I am enough’. Write this affirmation on your water glass, use that same glass all day and every time you take a sip of water, say the affirmation, either aloud or in your head.
- Do something for YOU
Pick one thing that you do for someone else, and either do it for yourself or find a way to have it done for you. For example, if you cook dinner for someone you care about to express your love, cook a meal for yourself and put the same love, care and devotion into the meal. Or even better, treat yourself to dinner out at a nice restaurant. Put yourself first for a few hours and do something just for you.
- Buy yourself an outfit that you know you look HOT in
Now I know what you are going to say, ‘I don’t look hot…in anything. In fact, I think I may as well just wear a sack meant for potatoes and be done with it.’ But, hear me out. Go to the shops or have a rummage through your wardrobe. Every woman is beautiful inside and out. But there are also certain outfits that have the power to either flatter or pronounce certain ‘trouble areas’ that we are not confident with. Picking the right outfit, be it a nice dress, or pair of jeans, or a nighty or set of underwear that you feel really confident in, can really change your mood. I promise there is something out there for everyone. You just have to be willing to look.
- Take a compliment
The next time someone offers you a compliment, take it. Whether it be about not burning the dinner or about how you look in those jeans. Smile genuinely and say thank you. Not everyone has ulterior motives or is secretly sending you an insult wrapped in a compliment. Listen to the people that care about you, and hear what they are saying to you. If your man says that you don’t need to be a size six for him to be attracted to you, believe him. The next time one of your parents, a friend or one of your children, tells you that you are enough, or says something nice, don’t shut them down. Let their compliment in.
- Eat good food
Now eating good food doesn’t have to mean eating everything organic and turning your nose up at a chocolate brownie. It can just mean eating food that you enjoy. Food that you like the taste of. How many times have you pushed lettuce around your bowl of salad, wishing that it would suddenly turn into a juicy steak or a piece of fried chicken? Now, I like salad, I eat it pretty much every day, but if I wake up in the morning and the thought of eating a bowl of rabbit food just isn’t appealing, I’m not going to force myself to eat it. Not every day. Prepare meals that you can sit down and eat with a smile. Food that makes you feel good, inside and out. Fresh is best and food made with love always tastes better. So get cooking!
- Contemplate the idea that your body is more than just something to look at
Our bodies are incredible, amazing, mind-blowing machines. The very fact that you can stand up and walk, or sit and lay down, are all amazing concepts. Our bodies work so hard to give us energy, to enable us to do the things that we need as well as the things that we want. The miracle that is your body, allows you to drive a car, hold your child, dance in the moonlight and read this blog. And so much more. Choosing to be grateful for your body instead of judging it and comparing it to other people is the kindest, best thing that you can ever do for yourself and for your self-esteem.
- Move your body
Turn on some music and start swaying those hips! Just feel the music and let your body go. If you need to, close the curtains and lock the doors so you can feel comfortable. This is your body, this is it. It’s not that woman’s down the road, or the one on the cover of Cosmopolitan magazine, it’s yours. No matter how much you may want to change it, it’s yours. From the moment you were born to the moment that you die, and every moment in-between, this body is no one else’s but yours. So why not enjoy it? Dance, laugh, have fun and don’t think about what you look like.
- Believe that it is possible to love yourself
It is possible to forgive yourself, for things you may have said or things you may have done. It is possible to let go of the things that are holding you back from enjoying life. It is possible to not put so much pressure and expectations on yourself and on your life. Believe that you can love yourself and that it is perfectly ok to do so. That’s the first and most important step.
I wish you all the luck in the world. Just believe.